The other day I happened upon a concept that I was unfamiliar with. It's called companion gardening. As I try each season to develop my gardening skills, I was instantly drawn to the phrase and wanted to know more about it. The basic premise is that in nature there are certain plants that encourage the growth and development of others and certain that actually repel or depress the progression of their neighbors. Skilled companion gardeners take time to learn and research what plants should be positioned next to each other for optimal development.
The concept of companion gardening was intriguing to me not only as a novice gardener, but also as a therapist who specializes in women's empowerment. Immediately I began to marvel at my sister, Mother Nature, and the brilliant ways that she clues us in to how to live. If you understand companion gardening then you understand that the company that you keep can either impair or empower you. Your friends, coworkers and associates either upgrade or hinder you. Their attitudes, beliefs, actions, goals, etc. are either rays of light or suffocating weeds.
Take out a piece of paper. Draw a picture of a flower in the middle of the page. This flower is you. Now draw and number ten flowers around the picture. On a separate piece of paper write the number one and then assign a name to the first flower. Number one should be a person that has a significant place in your life. Ask yourself the following questions about the first person.
- What role does he/she play in my life?
- What does he/she believe about success?
- Is he/she happy?
- Does he/she make me happy?
- What does he/she do consistently to help others?
Repeat this exercise for all ten flowers and then ask yourself. How healthy is your garden?